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Sawdah bint Zam'ah رضي الله عنها
Her Day for 'A'ishah
As the years passed and Sawdah grew older, she made a decision of her own: she gave her turn with the Prophet ﷺ to 'A'ishah. So the Prophet ﷺ spent two days with 'A'ishah, her own and Sawdah's (Sahih al-Bukhari 5212). Her one wish was to remain his wife and to be raised among his wives on the Day of Resurrection.
Ibn 'Abbas connected this to the verse: ﴿وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا وَالصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ﴾ (“If a woman fears from her husband cruelty or desertion, there is no blame upon them if they make terms of settlement between them — and settlement is best”) (4:128).
'A'ishah, who benefited from her gift, never forgot it. She said there was no woman she would rather have been in the skin of than Sawdah, and described her as a woman of sharp spirit (Sahih Muslim 1463).
She gave up a right of her own to keep what mattered more to her, and won the lasting love of the one she gave it to.
Is there a right you hold on to that you could give up to keep a relationship whole?
- Sahih al-Bukhari 5212 Sahih · in the two Sahihs
- Sahih Muslim 1463 Sahih · in the two Sahihs
- Qur'an 4:128
- Jami' al-Tirmidhi, Kitab Tafsir al-Qur'anGrade not recorded here
What the hadith grades mean
- Sahih (authentic): an unbroken chain of trustworthy, precise narrators, free of hidden flaws or contradiction. It is acted upon.
- Hasan (good): like sahih, but a narrator's precision is slightly lighter. It is also accepted and acted upon. "Hasan sahih" means it reaches sahih by its routes.
- Da'if (weak): a break in the chain or a narrator who is not reliable enough. It is not used to establish beliefs or rulings.
- Very weak (munkar, matruk): a seriously flawed chain or a narrator accused of lying. It is not relied on at all.
- Mawdu' (fabricated): falsely attributed to the Prophet ﷺ. It may not be narrated as his words except to warn against it.
- The two Sahihs: every hadith with a full chain in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim is accepted as sahih by the scholars of hadith.
- Historical report: biographies and histories (Ibn Ishaq, Ibn Sa'd, al-Tabari) record events with chains that are often incomplete. They are used for the story, not for rulings.
- Hadith scholars grade a narration; the four madhhabs do not. Where a hadith carries a ruling, the page shows which schools act on it.
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